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Complicated problems experienced by humans, often and in fact almost all, actually comes from within yourself. They unknowingly created a chain of problems that stem from the problem of self concept.
With the ability to think and judge, humans and even likes to assess the various against yourself or something or someone else – and even believes that his perception is not necessarily objective.
From there, the problem appears as inferiority, less confident, and the hobby of criticizing yourself. The following article will detail about the concept of self, what and how the concept of self to the emergence of the problem experienced by human beings everyday.
What Is Self Concept?
The concept of self can be defined in General as the beliefs, views or someone's judgment against him. A person is said to have negative self concept if he believes that the him and looked weak, helpless, unable to do anything, incompetent, failing, unattractive, hapless, unpopular and loses appeal against life.
People with negative self concept will likely be who was on life and the opportunities that it faces. He did not see the challenge as an opportunity, but rather as an obstacle. People with negative self concept, it would be easy to give up before battle, and if it fails, there will be two parties that blame, whether it's a self-condemnation (negatively) or blame others.
Instead someone with a positive self concept would seem more optimistic, confident and always positive attitude towards everything, also against failure of hers. Failure is not looked upon as death, but rather making it a discovery and a valuable lesson to step forward.
People with a positive self concept, will be able to appreciate her and see the positive things that can be done for the sake of the success in the future.
The Process Of The Formation Of The Concept Of Self
The concept itself is formed through a process of learning since the growth of a human being from small to mature. Environment, experience and parenting provides parents a significant influence of the concept of the self is formed.
The attitude or the response of the elderly and the environment will be the information materials for children to assess who he was. Therefore, it is often the children who grew up and was raised in parenting that is incorrect and negative, or any environment that is supportive, less likely to have negative self concept.
This is due to the attitude of parents for example: like hitting, neglect, lack of attention to, harassing, insulting, being unjust, never praise, like grumpy, etc-is considered as a punishment as a result of any errors or deficiencies, ignorance itself.
So children judging him based on what he got from the natural environment. If the environment provides a good and positive attitude, then the child will feel itself valuable enough so that a positive self concept stood.
This concept has a dynamic nature, meaning that it did not escape the changes. There are aspects that can survive within a certain period, but is also easy to change according to the momentary situation.
For example, a clever and always felt he managed to get a good value, but once he got the red numbers. That time he could have been so feel "stupid", but due to his belief that positive fundamentals, he attempted to fix the value.
Factors that affect Self Concept
Parenting your parents
Parenting parents as already described above have also become a significant factor in influencing the concept of self is formed. The positive attitude of parents that read by children, will foster the concept of positive thinking and attitude and appreciate yourself. The negative attitude of the parents will invite questions on children, and led to the assumption that he is not valuable enough to be loved, to be loved and appreciated; and it was all due to the lack of him so that parents are not dear.
The Failure Of
The failures experienced continually often raises the question to yourself and end up with the conclusion that all the cause lies in the weakness of self. Failure makes people feel themselves useless.
Depression
People who are experiencing depression will have negative thoughts tend to be in the perceive and respond to everything, including assessing yourself. Any situation or a neutral stimulus will be perceived negatively. For example, was not invited to a party, then think that because my "poor", then I don't deserve to be invited. A depressed person is hard to see whether he was able to survive the next life. A depressed person will be super sensitive and prone to irritability or "inedible" greeting people.
Internal criticism
Sometimes, criticize yourself is indeed needed to arouse someone's deeds that have been done. Criticism of themselves often serve a regulator or signs in the Act and behave so that our existence is accepted by the community and can adapt well.
Changing The Concept Of Self
Often our self himself causing the issue gets complicated with think that no-no against a State or against ourselves. However, by their very nature are dynamic, self concept can undergo a change to a more positive direction. The steps that need to be taken in order to have a positive self concept:
1. Be objective in recognizing oneself
Don't ignore a positive experience or even the slightest success ever achieved. Take a look at the talent, the talent and potential of ourselves and look for ways and opportunities to develop it. Do not be too hopeful that you can appease everyone or do everything at once.
You can't be all things to all people, you can't do all things at once, you just do the best you could in every way
2. Please respect yourself
No one else who better appreciate ourselves other than yourself. If we can not appreciate yourself, can't see the goodness that exists in yourself, not being able to look at the good things and positive toward ourselves, how can we appreciate other people and see the good things that exist in others positively? If we are not able to appreciate others, how others could appreciate it ourselves?
3. do not be hostile toward yourself
The largest and most exhausting warfare is warfare going on in ourselves. The attitude of blaming yourself in excess is a sign that there is animosity and wars between the expectations of the ideal with the reality of the true self (real self). As a result, will develop the mental fatigue and a sense of frustration in weak and increasingly negative as well as the concept itself
4. positive thinking and rational
"We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world "(The Buddha)
So, all that much depends on how we look at everything, be it issue or against someone. So, take control of our mind if the mind begins to deceive the body and soul.
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